Will My Son Have a Better Life Than Me?
'He is so small and helpless - his very life depends on me' the poem began. This line spoke to the inner most regions of my soul, as my son Zachary was eighteen months old at the time. As the poem continued, it spoke about the challenges of raising a son the right way in perilous times. Immediately, musical ideas began popping into my head, and I knew that there was no longer a question of whether or not I would set this text - I had no choice but to set it to music!
It was a mere six years after the horrifying catastrophe of September 11th. The events of that day have forever expunged any sort of naiveté I had about the world that remained from my younger, more idealistic days. It demonstrated to me that there are people in this world that hate me simply because I’m an American (a Westerner, an infidel, whatever term you choose). They will spare no cost to kill Americans. In their jaded way of thinking, an American death is a victory for their cause - and in their deranged pursuit of that cause, they don't care if their victim is 18 months old or 81. It seems we are reminded of this all too often now, the failed bombing on Times Square and the botched exploits of the Christmas day bomber come immediately to mind.
Yes, we do live in dangerous times.
When I was a kid, suicide bombings seemed like something that only happened in the Middle East - not right here at home. I also used to ride my bike as a third grader for miles with my friends, without caring about the prospects of encountering a pedophile. The landscape has changed for my kids, unfortunately. My daughter, a 3rd grader, continually wants to walk the half mile home from school on her own - in this day and age, there's not a chance in the world I'll let that happen.
My son Zachary at age 2
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All of these things pointed to a painfully obvious, though regrettable, conclusion. When my son is grown, he will not inherit an America that is as care free of a place as it was when I reached early adulthood. For the first time in our lives, those of us with children now fear the answer to most basic question we all ask - "will my child have a better life than me?"
Again last month, we were reminded of the changing economic landscape as the unemployment rate hit 9.9%. It has hovered between 9% and 10% for the better part of a year, and I’ve heard reports that the real unemployment rate (including those that are so discouraged they’ve simply dropped out of the hunt) is closer to 17%. Dear God, what sort of America will my son inherit?
So in rereading ‘A Soul in Trust’ today, it occurred to me that poem seems even more relevant now then when I set it two years ago. You can see the entire poem below.
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He is so small and helpless - his very life
Depends on me; O, help me, Lord, to know
How best to shield him from earth's care and strife
Life's many dangers, --while I watch him grow.
This precious gift with reverence I receive
And pray I may prove equal to my task;
To teach my son the truths which I believe
I will need help: please hear me when I ask
Give wisdom, for I am weak, unskilled;
But Thou hast chosen me to be his guide.
Henceforth my days with purpose will be filled,
And selfish interests will be laid aside
A human soul into my arms is thrust.
May I prove worthy of this sacred trust.
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On Saturday, May 22nd, at 8 pm, the Five Seasons Chamber Choir will premiere my setting of this poem at Lovely Lane United Methodist Church in Cedar Rapids under my baton. If you too are, at times, uncertain about what the future holds for your children, if you are concerned about how to communicate basic truths to your children, in an era when so many media outlets communicate opposing messages, if you believe that faith is the most important thing you can pass along to your children, then this piece is for you. Come out, and hear how I’ve grappled with these issues in a musical setting that combines hopeful melodies within a tapestry of unsettling fear.
I hope this piece serves as some sort of a reminder of the extreme challenges we all face as parents. May all of us take seriously the sacred trust we’ve been assigned. If we do, perhaps we’ll help turn our country around for the next generation, so that our grandkids can indeed have a better life than ours.


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Ralph, great post! I "liked" this post and your current one on FB. Have a great 4th of July. Perfect time to think about our country and what we are leaving to them...
Blessings!
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Thanks Tracy - I appreciate your comment very much. We are going to need to make a lot of sacrifices as a country so that our kids inherit all of the prosperity and opportunities we had - this is something I think about a lot! I hope enough other people are starting to wake up and think of their kids and grandkids too. Happy 4th to you as well.
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